Hindsight is 20/20

"no, i don't think you're young. heck i still think i'm 23-24 most of the time. all i have to say is... when i was your age, i traveled a lot, did things i always wanted to do and had a job (job, not career) that allowed me to accomplish those dreams. of course at 28, i'm still playing and working the career thing. but i cherish the times i was 22-25 because i just ENJOYED life. there will always be a time in your life for you to settle down... live it up... i say absolutely. you'll never regret it"

These were the wise words left on my facebook wall by a former unwilling Mormon single. They are meant to fill me with hope and pride I'm sure. However......

This woman is the reason I'm scared of being single. See I remember her years of 22-25 a little different than she does. I remember her barely working full time and spending a lot of time moping around her mother's home. I also remember her being one of the most bitter, angry people I had ever met and she wielded her seminary class as a weapon to punish the youthful and happy. She also implanted in me, and every other girl who knew her, a fear of being single and alone because it would turn you into that. To this day, we'll say to each other I don't really care about being single, I just don't want to end up like Bitter Angry Girl. 2 years ago or so she finally got married, which kind of levitated the fear. It'll happen for everyone eventually.

But yeah, her words were nice. The reality she presented me with during my teenage years is still terrifyingly strong.